Winning is not about taking it all

Some time ago I had the displeasure of working with someone who was an outright bully.  His tendencies to dominate, intimidate and even humiliate were so overt and well known.  However, management did nothing to curb this guy’s daily tirade of other people’s shortcomings.  By doing nothing this guy was allowed to run rough shod over whoever he chose, without being held to account.  In effect, the bully had become the ‘elephant in the room;’ everyone knew he was there but no one could stop him in his tracks.  The knowledge this guy held in his head was deemed to be more valuable than the feelings of those who had to work with him directly.   Continue reading

Confidence Wake Up Call

What does self-confidence at work look like to you?  Maybe you’ve got a mental image of someone who has an upright and open posture, makes eye contact, looks smart and in control, and is calm in heated situations.     Imagine this description or something like it, was your ten out of ten in terms of your level of satisfaction, using a scale of 1-10 (1=low and 10=high) how would you rate your level of self-confidence right now?  Are you surprised?  Perhaps you’ve always felt awkward working with people, let alone managing them, and what about the social events you’re expected to attend and want to get out of?  If this resonates with you, don’t despair because it’s likely you need a confidence boost and I can help you straightaway if you keep reading.

If you ignore it,  you could end up in a dead end job and, in five years time for example, wonder why you feel stuck in a dead end job that’s going nowhere anytime soon.  Ouch! Continue reading

Feedback is a skill

You know what it’s like, you get negative feedback on something you’ve laboured over for a while and it takes the wind out of your sails, doesn’t it?  This has happened to me twice in a matter of weeks.  On the first occasion, I was completely unprepared for fairly harsh criticism of my website and didn’t really know what to say, until that is, I got home and thought of all the things I should have said.  Was it justified?  Probably.  Could it have been handled differently?  Definitely. Continue reading

How To Get Work Happiness

‘Happiness comes when you believe in what you are doing, know what you are doing, and love what you are doing’, Brian Tracy.  However, we know that only a third of the workforce is engaged at work and that the UK has the lowest level of productivity in G7 industrialised countries (ONS survey 2011).  One explanation is that people are working below their capacity, because the structure of work has changed. Continue reading

Confidence at work

Children seem to be fearless in their pursuit and oblivious to potential risks.  Yet as we grow we start being fearful of so many things, for example the fear of failing, letting people down, being compared unfavourably with our peers, making fools of ourselves if we speak up or stand out in anyway etc. Continue reading

Managing time

You know what it’s like you’ve got so much to do and a maximum of 168 hours each week to fit it all in.  As you go from one demand to the next you get further away from your real priorities and end up feeling dissatisfied and frustrated   You realise that you’ve got so much on the go that some things are only half done and others not done well at all.

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